when i take the time to envision my best self, physically i don’t picture myself all that differently. where the shift takes place is more so in my attitude towards myself and others. my best self doesn’t obsess over the fact that she ate too much last night or replay the same frustrating moment again…and again…and again in her head. she doesn’t impatiently follow people too closely in her car, and she doesn’t get annoyed at her husband for petty, insignificant reasons.
she’s self-possessed and calm. and glows with an unearthly radiance that only comes with the true understanding that our world is what we make it, and nothing more. her actions are purposeful and clear, and the base of all she does is love and compassion.
when i finish with a visualization like that, i feel refreshed and renewed. the challenge is to keep that grounded feeling as you continue about your day, even when some
jackassguy cuts you off when you’re driving. notice your knee-jerk reaction. just notice. and if you don’t act on it (i.e. beep, curse, flip him the bird or whatever other creative thing you can think of), it will subside. i promise. and you can pat yourself on the back for reacting from your ‘best self’ – not the self that has a tendency to grit her teeth and mumble an obscenity under her breath.
deep down, we all long to be free from these baser instincts – that inner mean girl that tells you you’re fat or unattractive, the harsh critic who scoffs at your self-improvement attempts, the nasty lady who snaps at her husband. that mean girl is not you. and she is the only ‘person’ who truly deserves your fierceness. so, next time the snotty lady stops by, tell her to take a hike. then take a deep breath, and revel in your instantaneous (if momentary) transformation into the best version of yourself.
meditation prompt for your journal or cushion:
what does your best self look like? act like?